Many people out there believe that long distance
relationships are never going to work out. Your
family may discourage it, and some of your best
friends may advise you not to take it too
seriously, in case you get your heart broken.
Nobody says it is going to be easy — the extra
distance makes many things unachievable.
Things could get complicated, and you could
get sad and lonely at times. However, the extra
distance also makes the simplest things the
sweetest, being able to hold the other person's
hand, eating together at the same table, feeling
each other's touch, taking a walk together,
smelling each other's hair… these small wishes
could suddenly mean so much more in a long
distance relationship.
Long distance relationship may be tough but it
has its own surprises too. To keep your love
alive and strong, here are the 18 tips to make
your long distance relationship work:
1. Avoid excessive communication.
It is unwise to be overly "sticky" and possessive.
You two don't really have to communicate 12
hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many
couples thought that they need to compensate
for the distance by doing more. This is not true.
And it might only make things worse. Soon you
would get tired of "loving." Remember: Less is
more. It is not about spamming — you are only
going to exhaust yourselves. It's really about
teasing at the right moments and tugging at the
right spots.
2. See it as a opportunity.
"If you want to live together, you first need to
learn how to live apart." – Anonymous
View it as a learning journey for the both of you.
See it as a test of your love for each other. As
the Chinese saying goes, "Real gold is not afraid
of the test of fire." Instead of thinking that this
long distance relationship is pulling you two
apart, you should believe that through this
experience, the both of you will be bound
together even stronger.
As Emma says it to Will in season four of Glee,
"I would rather be here, far from you, but feeling
really close, rather than close to you but feeling
really far away." – Emma, Glee Season 4
3. Set some ground rules to manage your
Both of you need to be clear with what you
expect of with each other during this long
distance relationship. Set some ground rules so
that none of you will do things that will take the
other party by surprise. For instance, are you
two exclusive? Is it alright for the other person
to go on dates? What is your commitment level?
It's better to be open with each other about all
these things.
4. Try to communicate regularly, and creatively.
Greet each other "good morning" and "good
night" every day — this is a must. On top of that,
try to update your partner on your life and its
happening, however mundane some of the
things may seem. To up the game, send each
other pictures, audio clips and short videos from
time to time. By putting in this kind of effort,
you make the other person feel loved and
attended to.
5. Talk dirty with each other.
$exual tension is undoubtedly one of the most
important things between couples. $exual desire
is like a glue that keeps both parties from
drifting apart. Not only is $ex a biological need, it
is an emotional one as well. Keep the flames
burning by sending each other teasing texts
filled with $exual innuendos and provocative
descriptions. $exy puns work pretty well too.
1. Have a goal in mind.
"What do we want to achieve at the end of the
day?" "How long are we going to be apart?"
"What about the future?" These are the
questions you two need to ask yourselves. The
truth is, no couple can be in a long distance
relationship for forever. Eventually we all need to
settle down.
So make a plan with each other. Do up a
timeline, marking down the estimated times
apart and times together, and draw an end goal.
It is important that you two are on the same
page and have the same goals. So that even if
you are not living in the same space and the
same timezone, both of you are still working